Today's journey

 My mental health is reliant on remaining sober, and my sobriety is reliant on working on my 

own mental health.  

Caution: Empathy without boundaries can lead to self-abandonment, and constant self-abandonment leads to burnout. Please be careful with when and how you give your energy. -Jovanny Ferreyra 

The opposite of addiction is connection. -Johann Hari

There's a bottom below the bottom; there's no problem a drink can't make worse. -MD

Sobriety begins with one alcoholic talking to another alcoholic. -W

It’s ok to be frivolous with my time. It’s ok to take time for me… -B

They got a bit of the best me that I was capable of…love I’m capable of receiving and giving-E

“Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change”- Brene Brown

“if you put shame in a petri dish, it needs three ingredients to grow exponentially: secrecy, silence, and judgment. If you put the same amount of shame in the petri dish and douse it with empathy, it can’t survive.”-Brene Brown

When you're not used to being confident, confidence feels like arrogance. When you're used to being passive, assertiveness feels like aggression. When you're not used to getting your needs met, prioritizing yourself feels selfish. Your comfort zone is not a good benchmark. 

"“Healthy boundaries aren’t walls or barbed wire fences. They are gates, portals that we selectively open when it is safe and life-enhancing to do so. Sometimes we do have to wall others off—to heal, to get a taste of what it feels like to be protected after a mountain of suffering—but eventually we come into a sacred balance. Here, we make conscious decisions as to when to open, when to close. I think of it as the “art of selective attachment.” Rather than responding from a patterned place that is too open or too closed, we assess each situation on its own merits. We keep the gate closed, when it is risky to open it. We unlatch the gate, if there is a healthy basis for connection. Healthy boundaries are situation specific, evolving and clarifying as we grow. We sift connections through an intelligently discerning filter, only opening the gate to those experiences and individuals that enhance our sacred true-path."

-Jeff Brown at https://jeffbrown42.substack.com/p/healthy-boundaries

“Safety is not the absence of threat; it is the presence of connection.” -Gabor Mate, Hungarian-Canadian physician

"Don't take it personally. Make it personal so you can learn from it." -S. in B.

"Practice Personal Power." -S. in B.